After spending over an hour on the phone with the woman acting as their controller, I decided maybe I did want the job. The pay would be much more than I’m making now, with benefits, PTO, a 401k, and I’d be working from home. I did a little research on the business, just to make sure they were all legit. They’ve been in business a couple years, made a couple million last year, and the owner has written a best selling novel.  Guess I shouldn’t be so quick to make judgements.

I sent them my references this morning, and have to have an “interview” with the owner. I’m really excited about what this job could do for my life and my career. It will be my first job where I truly feel like I can say “I’m an accountant” (this is what I’ve been going to school for). I’ll be able to pay back my student loans. Hell, if I save the difference between what I’m making now and what I’d be making there, I’d be able to pay it off in 3 years.

I was super nervous about telling my current boss this morning, but she was really nice. She said she knew it was coming, she wasn’t sure how soon it would be, but she’s not surprised. She also said that she doesn’t blame me, and she doesn’t know how she’s going to replace me. Super awesome feedback to hear.

So I’m keeping my fingers crossed that these last few pieces fall into place so that I can do things like take my dog for a walk in the middle of the day as a break. I can start really put all this learning to use, be more than able to pay my bills, maybe even hire someone to do my yard. We suck at yard work.

I know a lot of people have a hard time finding jobs the last couple years, I’ve been really blessed in this. When I was ready to leave my old job, and got hired here, it was a similar situation. When I really started looking, I had a new job within 3 weeks of sending out my resumes. The same with this (assuming I get it). Even if I don’t, I took a test to get a job with county, got a 91%, and am in the tier for “definitely will get interviewed”.

Oh, I also started a no sugar, almost paleo diet on Saturday that will run for 3 weeks.  So far it’s been pretty good, yesterday was the worst since I was home all day laying on the couch due to my back hurting.  My back was great on Monday, then super painful again on Tuesday.  I have no idea why, or what I did.  I wish I knew so I could avoid doing it again.

All in all, I’m really excited to see what the rest of the year brings. New league, new job, new house, graduating from school…….it’s been a great one so far.  My husband just asked if we could spend Christmas at Disneyland again this year, and I’m super excited for this.  I love that place!

Lots of things have happened between us in the last year, good and bad. We had amazing moments, and horrible fights. She was an amazing person to get to know (stubborn as all hell, but what can you do) and I will definately remember her always.

Now, there are some things happening that have to do with K and that don’t have to do with her, so I want to clear the air.

I am completely single and plan on staying that way for a while.

I’ve quit my job at the gym and I am taking my little nest egg and going to school to become a chef. When I’m done, I’d like to stay in the area, but more than likely I’ll leave.

There have been some family situations that have happened that have a lot to do with the LGBT community and how people are and aren’t “accepting” of it.

Also, I died (come on, this is old news).

Right now, I’m in the middle of a really tough personal training session with a really nice guy, Jay. Yes, a trainer hired a trainer, get over it. He’s got a different style than me and has already taught me a lot. (Gotta love forward posting lol)

My back is still a mess, but it’s slowly getting better.

I don’t hate anyone, I just disagree with their opinions (however ridiculous said opinions are).

I have slowly gone Paleo. It took me two weeks to weed out the gluten but I’m there

I’m in a much better place right now, it’s just going to take time for others to realize that. (I’m sure when they do, they will wish they didn’t desert me when I needed them).

but that’s about it… I’ll go into detail when I get home later tonight (before Krav Maga, I must be nuts for trying that stuff)

all for now

peace

So, what happens when you discover that you’re in a relationship with someone like this but have invested so much time that you can’t decide whether to turn a blind eye to the chunk of foul waste floating around the house or flush them out of your life for good? Do you stay, go, or just develop a finely tuned ability to avoid seeing the things that are most obviously wrong in your relationship? The sad fact is that sometimes people don’t get that the things bringing them down in life are, in part, the choices they make when picking their supposed ”soul mate” because they just don’t want to admit failure.  Just like the saying about how some “can’t see the forest for the trees” it’s also logical to think that a person so focused on having and keeping a relationship just for the sake of being part of a couple would tend to overlook a stanky doodie-log drifting by. All the while, friends look on in frustration, wondering when you will come to your senses and, despite trying to get you to dump out that rancid bowl of mistaken “unrefreshment”, because no one likes punch (it’s true), you just wouldn’t listen.

"There's a doodie in the pool!"

The first step in doing better for yourself is always knowing better and any nibit that hasn’t got the common sense to at least show some initiative towards taking your feelings into account deserves to be thrown out with the diaper. A turd is by the most elementary definition, waste. Don’t date one, marry one, live with one, buy a boat with one or even a sandwich for that matter. They contaminate everything around them and the stench they leave in their wake lasts for years and even an Empire State Building sized air freshener won’t cut that funky waft. Only severing all ties completely will accomplish this type of mental and aromatic exorcism.

Let’s examine what kind of floaters you have in your party punchbowl:

Selfish Turds: Are quite simply in it for what they can get and not for what they should give back in return. Each sentence starts with “I” and the objective is to make you think that “me” really means “we”…it doesn’t.

Liar Turds: These specimens of excrement should grow like Pinocchio’s nose after each whopper they tell. As my mama used to say, “When they are stacked 10 turds high it’s time to flush.”  WOOSH!

Freudian Turds: Simply put, these are the ones that haven’t been kicked loose from the umbilical cord and are also those that have an axe to grind with old Mommy and Daddy Dearest. Rather than go to therapy they decide to take those demons out on you.

Psycho Turds: Usually proclaim they have psycho exes and psycho mothers/fathers when in reality they are the psychologically tilted ones. HINT: If they claim everyone around them is crazy all the time chances are they are the real nut filled chunk ‘o poo log.  SEE FREUDIAN TURD ABOVE

Drunkard Turd: Mr. or Ms. Imagined Life of The Party. Intoxication is their coping mechanism for all of life’s problems and when they are 3 sheets to the wind or 20 stories high everything wrong in their world becomes your fault. Despite the fact that their issues started long before you met them the bullseye of blame will always be squarely on your head and when you hear, “I drink because of you” it’s time to put an ignition interlock on your heart and soul to keep them from crashing both.

Absolutely No Turds Allowed!

Knowing who you are in a relationship with can be both a valuable key to success and a sure sign of failure if the issue of turdish behavior isn’t addressed head on. Once a turd always a turd isn’t necessarily true and even the most kind, considerate and loving people can sink into less than honorable patterns of behavior if internal issues haven’t been attended to.  Ignoring their issues never helps and neither does putting up with such obnoxious and often times dangerous behavior. Sure, a great person can become a stinking pile later in life and a former ass-chunk, from younger days, can be reformed but it takes work…on their part, not yours.  One can let their issues change their personality and the other can change their personality by getting their issues under control. It is NEVER your job to save them, it is your job to save yourself though so use this as a cautionary tale and avoid skid marks at all cost. Eventually they will either evolve into human beings or simply just decompose and dissipate.

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all for now

peace