The Lent Thing

If you’ve been a long time reader, you know I participate in one Catholic tradition: Lent.

If you’re new, feel free to make fun. But fuck you. It’s the one thing my grandmother and I did each year and I’m sticking to it. Even if she is gone.

Anyway, here’s the deal this year:

Giving Up:
Shitty food.

Starting Up:
New workout schedule.
Writing on a blog post every day.
Working on my book.

I’m also going to start thinking more rationally about my relationship.

all for now

peace

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Cinema Obscura: The Science of Sleep

Cinema Obscura – a weekly trek through the darker and frequently more random and forgotten regions of Cult, Foreign and Obsure cinema and pretty much everything in between. Each week highlighting a film worth hunting down, for those who like to wander away from the more traveled roads of Mainstream cinema

This last week, despite my best efforts I have been suffering from the darn flu that is currently going around and in between amassing a small pharmacy of flu remedies and looking for some suitable viewing while I was refusing to get out of bed, I rediscovered this film in my collection and knew that I had found my choice for this week. This weeks choice is a film which was pretty much ignored on it’s release despite receiving a lot of positive press from critics, which is only the more surprising at the time with Director Michel Gondry coming in hot after the phenomenal success of “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” and memorable in the conscious of the movie going public, an advantage which allowed Gondry seemingly unlimited creative freedom for this project, which would also be the first film written by him, with his previous films both being scripted by the equally visionary screenwriter Charlie Kaufman probably best known for writing “Being John Malkovich” and while “Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind” might have been trippy, this film would be turn out to be on a whole new surreal level.

Set around Stephane (Gael Garcia Bernal) a frequent lucid dreamer, who seemingly spends as much time in his own personal dream world as he does in the real world. Having returned from Mexico to his childhood home in Paris, following the death of his father, he takes up a job at a Calendar Company believing that it will provide the outlet for his creativity he craves, while also forming a relationship with Stephanie (Charlotte Gainsbourg) who shares Stephane’s overactive sense of creativity.

Meanwhile Stephane finds himself frequently frustrated by the lack of creativity his work provides, aswell as from having to deal with his eccentric work colleagues which only further his jaunts into his personal dream world, as he now finds the line between the two only becoming all the more blurred.

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Coming from a background in commercials and Music videos, much like equally visual directors such as David Fincher and Spike Jonze  who bizarly also made the transition to feature films around the same time as Gondry did, though while they may have expanded on their earlier styles, Gondry has reminded determinedly set in his own surreal world of DIY props and dream like imagery, while frequently drawing inspiration from his own dreams and has frequently used this imagery as part of  his work, which makes it only all the more sense that he would eventually make a film about dreams.

The casting is nothing short of bold, with the two leads being realativly unknowns to most movie goers, bar those with a taste for Foreign and independent cinema. Having made the pitch black “The King” a year earlier this film would be Bernal’s second film to be shot in English, having previously only being known to fans of foreign cinema for his roles in “Y tu mamá también” and the fantastic “Amores perros” this film would continue his trend for fearlessly choosing his roles, especially with a character as frenzied as Stephane. Equally inspired is the casting of the little known Gainsbourg who is equally believable as Stephanie while seemingly to genuinely believe and buy into the world which Stephane lives inside, while also being shown as the stereotypical hot art student with her personal styling and room layout, which also is hinted with the intoxicating essence of Parisian flair.

Split down the middle, the film frequently switches between two worlds, the real one and the world of Stephane’s dream and more precisely “Stephane TV” his own TV show in his mind were he frequently reflects on current events happening around him, while providing the gateway into the even more surreal parts of his mind, with Gondry frequently choosing to switch between these two worlds frequently without warning, which can be a disorientating experience upon your first viewing and it’s really only on the second viewing that it becomes easier to identify the boundary lines between these two worlds, even when those lines frequently become all the more blurred as the film goes on, especially as Stephane’s dreams only grow in intensity.

This constant disorientation is only furthered by the frequent switches in the characters speaking French and English, also like the switches in reality with little or no warning, only making it more the appropriate when this is picked up by Stephane, who complains that it is making him feel “Schizophrenic”. Still Gondry somehow manages to get the audience to buy into this style of storytelling, which is highly reminiscent of French New Wave directors such as Jean-Luc Godard and from the retro opening titles onwards I found myself frequently comparing the work of the two directors, especially with both being key in furthering the progression of visionary cinema, it was interesting to see Gondry seemingly referencing Godard’s work, while also drawing inspiration from the more established visionaries like Terry Gilliam and David Cronenberg whose Spider like Typewriter from “Naked Lunch” making a surprise appearance here.

The dream sequences are truly the main selling point of this film, as Gondry lets loose with some of his most ambitious imagery to date, as he constructs elaborate sets from cardboard and polystyrene combined with heavy use of stop motion animation, while for those familiar with Gondry’s work will recognise the now all familiar giant hands which have frequently appeared at various points in his previous music videos and films to the point were they are almost as established as his other trademarks, despite having originally been born out of a frequent childhood nightmares about his hands growing to gigantic size, to the point were his mother would have to continuously rubs his hands to assure him that it was nothing more than a dream, though for such an unpleasant childhood memory it bizarre that it would feature so frequently in his work. Still frequently these sequences often do feel like an excuse for Gondry to pull out his film making bag of tricks, especially when so many scenes seem reminiscent of his earlier work.

Ultimately this would be his most ambitious film to date and also prove to be the zenith of his creativity, as the films which followed would see him gradually toning down his vision with his follow up “Be Kind Rewind” being firmly set in reality despite the heavy use of DIY props to now an almost mainstream style of film making seen with “The Green Hornet” which lacked any of Gondry’s trademark touches, though it remains to be seen how mainstream he has become as fan’s now egerly await the forthcoming “The We and the I”.

Ultimately though this is a tale of doomed love and it’s sudden and abrasive ending will no doubt only further exclude it from the tastes of your average movie goer, while for those of you who like to be visually inspired by your film, there is much to enjoy, even if it does require your full attention to keep up with it’s continual switches, while only making you hope that Gondry returns to this style of film making soon.

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Ever Work With “One of Those”?

annoying coworker

I really love my job right now. The only problem I’m having (aside from wanting more hours) is the negative griping. I get irritated with people and things, who doesn’t? I understand that people need to vent. There are many times when I need to vent because someone ticked me off. But I would like to think that I am more often than not positive and smiling.

Have you ever worked with someone who NEVER has anything nice or positive to say? OMG!!!!! I have one of those right now. Even if what you think you’re saying is a positive thing she takes it the wrong way. She even complains out loud in front of people about our boss. She seems to think that no one knows who or what she’s talking about but I can feel the tension in the room.

Normally I would tell people I come across that if they don’t like their jobs they should look for something else that would make them happier. But this person really wouldn’t take it very well. I don’t like to “tattle” on people to my boss either. I have this sinking feeling, or maybe gut feeling is a better way to put it, that if I did my job would become hell.

Have you had this happen? What did you do? Guess I have some thinking to do.

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Roller Derby Round Up #14

Happy Bout Day!

Because I know the North Star Roller GIrls have a bout today, I thought I’d share these brilliant photos with you from one of their last bouts… Taken by Wijadi Jodi -

Delta Delta Di (Pink) Vs. Banger Sisters (Blue)
Violent Femmes (Red) Vs. Kilmore Girls (Green)
Photos Taken By Wijadi Jodi

Don’t forget, if you’re not doing anything tonight, browse DNN for a list of bouts you can watch online…

Cheers,
Sammy Slam

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Interesting Conversations with the Staff Writers

Typically, conversations between me and the many staff writers now writing for this site are post related questions or comments.

And then this happened:

Mistress Meow: I need a new box.
Lucy: For what?
Mistress Meow: Babeland sends me all those sex toys to try out and the box I have to keep prying eyes out of my business is overflowing.
Lucy: Um…
Mistress Meow: I mean, my box (points at vajayjay) is fine. I just need a bigger sex toy box.
Lucy: (Facepalm)

all for now

peace

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Sex Toy Review – Ipo Finger Vibe

Time to move the kids into another room, hide the computer screen from your parents and don’t let your significant other see your browser history… this is a sex toy review.

This is a no holds barred type of post, so if you aren’t comfortable reading it, then don’t continue reading.

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7 ‘Pinspired’ Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW Instead of Wasting an Hour on Pins Nobody Cares About

Pin It
by Nate Schrader

If you’re much of a blogger, tweeter, or even a Facebook user, you’ve probably heard of the new visual social platform known as Pinterest. For those of you who don’t know, visiting Pinterest in 10 seconds will tell you that it’s basically your Facebook or Twitter mini-feed with only visual content and captions. You can still tag people in posts like Facebook and Twitter by using the “@” symbol, and even create trending topics with a “#”. There are so many cool ideas, funny pictures, and unique outlooks that it’s tough to ever put the site down after you’ve taken the dive for the day. I think this graphic I found sums it up perfectly:

addictivness of pinterest
Because it’s so easy to fall into the trap of being awestruck for hours rather than being the one doing the ‘pinspiring,’ here are seven things you can do RIGHT NOW in under an hour. According to the graphic above, you could actually do three of these things. As experienced pinners will agree, if you want to get something creative done, I suggest choosing one task, set a goal, and stop and repin nothing until you’re finished!

1. Workout

Workout
Pinterest is full of workouts, including this one that requires ZERO weights. For some, they may not be as intense as your typical routine, but you’re guaranteed something new in under 30 minutes.

2. Cook A Meal

dinner
Yes, Recipes.com is a great resource, but once you click through the images on Pinterest to pinners’ blogs, you usually get an awesome step-by-step visual and verbal tutorial to burn-proof your dish.

User Tip #1: To link to your site, pin your desired article’s image to a board. Then, click “edit” and put a link in the “link” field and say hello to blog traffic!

3. Find an Outfit

blue scarf outfit
You have a blue shirt. Search “blue outfit” and find a perfect get-up someone made with a blue shirt complete with ideas for scarves, jewelry, and probably more. Looks like you might want to go shopping tonight, too.

User Tip #2: Inspired to make your own outfit? Check out Polyvore.com to compile your own wardrobe favs.

4. Get Motivated

motivation
By now, we know life ain’t always easy. But search something like “motivation” and you’ll get some great quotes and posters to get you pumped up for your next workout or just inspired to roll out of bed the next day.

5. Do a DIY

crayon DIY
Pinterest THRIVES on do-it-yourself projects, and there are some pretty quick ones like this crayon-melting-majesty. I’ve found the simpler and quicker the project with the most accessible materials, the greater success you’ll have in repins & retweets. Also, great yet simple photography is a must.

 

User tip #3: Placing the “Pin It” button near your desired object(s) in your post is vital to reach and re-pin success. For more on the Pin It button, go to Pinterest’s Goodies page.

6. Brighten Your Space

wall photo
There are too many great posters and graphics on Pinterest to count. Since I know you have a printer and hopefully some glossy photo paper, grab a sizable image, print it out, and make your walls speak a little louder.

7. Enter a Contest

Pinned Image
Once again, searching “contest” will bring up a myriad of contests. Most Pinterest contests are pretty fun too. This current contest requires you to create your own board, search through Pinterest, and use the # and the @ symbols – great practice if you ask me! Plus you have the chance to win a $50 gift card to Target & free sunglasses just in time for spring break.

 User tip #4: To grab images you find on the internet without a “Pin It” button or not on Pinterest yet, install the “Pin It” browser taskbar tool. You’ll be happy you did.

Hopefully you’re moved to get started and feel a little more prepared to do so. If not, maybe you need some more motivation pins. Or some funny pins if you knew all of these things already. Or… well, you see how it goes, so set a goal – you’ve already spent 30 minutes reading this post, which means you’ve got thirty minutes to pick something out and get cracking!

User tip #5: After you pick your activity, record yourself doing it, and create a pin-able blog post about being proactive with Pinterest ideas while mentioning your blog source article. You’ll probably create a relationship with a blogger, and be that ‘pinspirer’ and not just the ‘pinspired.’

And if you’re interested in the pins, here are the links:

Workout | Meal | Outfit | Motivation | DIY | Wall Photo | Contest

Happy Pinning, and Happy Doing!

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I care

People say you shouldn’t care about what other people think about you. I disagree with this statement. You definitely shouldn’t care about what the wrong people think about you, but sometimes you should care about what people think about you, ore more specifically, your behavior.

We surround ourselves with people we care about. Often we care about them because we have something in common with them. The people closest to us usually share our morals and our values. If I am trying to make a decision about something, and I’m trying to decide whether the decision is a good one, or selfish (in a bad way, one can be selfish in a good way), or just plain dumb, I call my bestie. I know, without a doubt, that she will tell me if I’m being an idiot.

She may not come straight out and say “you’re being an idiot” (ok, if it was really stupid, she totally would), but she’ll find a way to let me know she doesn’t agree with what I’m doing. The thing with this is, she’s someone I have a ton of respect and admiration for. If she tells me I’m being stupid, it’s probably because I’m being stupid. She shares my morals and values, and it’s one of the reasons I love her.

It hasn’t been very often that she’s had to do this, and I can’t really think of ever, but I still call her if I’m ever not sure about something. I care what she thinks. If she told me I was doing something stupid, I would listen. If she tells me I’m doing something stupid, it’s something I know I would regret at some point. Also, she has some serious fashion sense.

If we’ve surrounded ourselves with people who mirror our values and morals, and they think we’re doing something wrong, we absolutely should listen. Life lived by emotions is ugly and messy. Life lived by morals and values leaves little regret. Does this mean never listen to emotion? No way. Emotions are an excellent warning system. Sometimes, however, they’re just emotions. I believe in viewing my emotions through my morals and values, and allowing the latter to make my decision.

I care what the people I care about think of what I’m doing. I realized that if they think I’m doing something wrong, I will end up regretting and I should just save myself the trouble.
If you have surrounded yourself with people who do not share your morals and values, perhaps this is something to think about. We all are self serving sometimes, and it’s really great to have people in your life to help be your compass.

Darby, thanks for being awesome. I can’t wait to see you next month.

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Ask Elle: “Help! Valentine’s Day was a big heart-shaped disaster!”

It's love's way or the highway.

During this time of year I get a lot of questions about how to make love grow, how to keep love alive and also how to keep love from turning into a fierce battle over what equals a proper expression of  ”romance” when it comes to Valentine’s Day. “They should know what I like or what I will find romantic.” Really? You are dating or are married to a mind reader? How fabulous for you!

Yeah, yeah…Valentine’s Day is synonymous with hearts, love, kisses and all that mushy crap but add in a dash of brain washing via diamond commercials or flower merchants and everyone (women in particular) believes that unless a grand gesture is made then their significant other just doesn’t love them enough! How grand a gesture depends on the unspoken expectations of the intended receiver, whether they admit it or not, but the chosen giver often believes spending a grand is really what’s expected!

Saying “I love you” is free any other day and when heard it’s enough you say so why, then, should it be any different on this one day? “Baby, I know you love me but unless you buy me a pound of chocolate that I will then turn around and accuse you of giving to make me fat and then dropping a few thousand on some bling and roses I just won’t truly FEEL loved!”  Did your Valentine’s Day work out like this? Can anyone really win in situations where mountain high, fairytale expectations constantly suck the wind out the sails of relationship romance?

Here is a question I received that serves as an example of how unrealistic and unreasonable expectations can totally F-up a “holiday” originally associated with the 270 AD execution of a Roman priest who performing secret marriages for soldiers in opposition to a ban imposed by Claudius II.  Yeah! Now, that is warm and fuzzy right?

Depiction of the death of Saint Valentine...would you die for love?

 

Dear Elle,

I have been dating a wonderful woman for the past 3 years. She’s amazing in many ways and I enjoy being with her but I’m starting to HATE Valentine’s Day!  It’s almost like a pressure filled count down begins right as January ends and the suggestions, hints and pouting start. I tell her I love her and try to remember the things she finds important but this stress under fire situation always leaves me with the feeling that anything I do will just disappoint so why try?

Even though I  give her gifts based totally on things she suggests the look on her face seems less than joyful sometimes which just irritates me! I have asked her what’s up with this but all I get is “it’s fine” and this year she added that maybe I could be more spontaneous once in a while to surprise her! WTF? When a woman TELLS you what she wants and you DO IT but that still isn’t right then what? I’m at a loss and with another failed Valentine’s Day under my belt I’m thinking that maybe she is either just too damn picky or horribly delusional about what she really wants. Any ideas for me before I just call it a day and tell her the pressure is starting to change how I feel about her?

Sincerely,

I Give Up

 

Dear Mr. Give Up,

Okay, we are only hearing about one day a year here. Does your alleged wishy-washy woman do the old emotional switcheroo all the time or only on Valentine’s Day? If she does it all the time then my question to you is this: Why do you claim she is amazing if she ALWAYS does this shit? That isn’t amazing it’s pathetically childish and signals to me, and probably all of your friends, that you picked  a woman who is selfish and  immature. But, and this is a big BUT…if she only acts this way one day a year and it bothers you enough to make you reconsider your relationship then maybe you haven’t done as much ”discussing” as you claim.

Something doesn’t add up so my suggestion is to ask yourself whether it could also possibly be that your personal attitude towards the day itself is causing the real cloud over your relationship. Hate is a very strong word after all so could it be that a possible negativity towards gift giving in general is the real root cause of your irritation rather than anything your girlfriend actually said or did? I certainly know when I’m feeling pissy about something I tend to have selective hearing and even the most benign statements become suspect. So, in closing I will say this: Where is the pressure really coming from? Is it truthfully coming from her like you say or are you doing it to yourself? There, now you have both options so choose wisely and good luck!

Totally Sincere,

Elle

 

No, take my heart...literally!

 

 

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